Javor Skerlj Vogelnik (Slovenia) – Compassionate Communication – the Art of Listening, Empathy and Authentic Self-expression
Compassonate or Nonviolent communication is a global language developed by american psychologist Dr. Marshall Rosenberg. The basic principle is establishing a quality of connection between people that contributes to everyone’s needs getting met.
This language addresses our thinking patterns, the use of our language and the way we communicate. It is based on clear observations, authentic self expression, emphatic listening and self-empathy.
We will be learing how to establish a compassionate connection with ourselves and others, how to apply the principles of shared power, how to resolve conflicts and nurish our authentic self expression.
The workshop will take place in a group of maximum 22 people. Together we will explore alternative ways of communication in our personal and/or corporate relationships. You will have a chance to work on your personal communication challenges and possible conflicts from your own life. Certain exercises will include also some body movement.
Some of the themes that we will explore are:
- Self-empathy (embracing personal pain, fear, anger and other feelings)
- Transforming enemy images, we have towards other people
- Management of the language of blaming, criticism and demands
- Keeping connection in challenging conversations
- What matters most to me?
- How can I more fully live in alignment with my values?
- Speaking and listening in ways that inspire compassion
- A quality of listening that bridges cultural divides
- Expressing yourself in ways that inspire collaboration
- What is nonviolent communication?
- How can I be guided by the principles of Nonviolent Communication while being true to my own authentic expression?
- How can I make a difference in my own relationships and/or communities to bring about more compassion, collaboration and ease in getting along?
- How can I give and receive feedback that is honest and caring at the same time?
- How do I interact with children, elders, professional colleagues, friends, intimate partners in ways that are authentic to me, yet connecting in all the different contexts?
- What is conflict?
- Transform blame into connection
- Discover how to come back to center when upset
- Explore individual and systemic options for engaging with conflict
- Develop the concrete skills of nonviolence leading to reconciliation with ourselves, our loved ones and the community
- How to facilitate reconciliation when you are not part of the conflict
- How to facilitate reconciliation when you are part of the conflict
- Empathic responses in the midst of conflict to deescalate the situation
- Processes to move through conflict internally and interpersonally
The worshop will be facilitated by Javor Škerlj Vogelnik:
Javor is a professor of Sport Science with several years of working experience in the field of sports. In the recent years he is working as a trainer of communication skills in business, universities, youth centers and other organisations. He uses non violent communication to establish a quality of connection with self and others and is inspired by its practical application into everyday relationships at home and work. His desire to deepen the knowledge of nonviolent communication brought him into the certification process with the international center for nonviolent communication (CNVC). Javor’s passions are also music and woodcrafting. He is as well studying movement therapy with the School of Movement Medicine and finished a 4 years study of Geomancy with Unesco artist for peace Marko Pogačnik.
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